Unleashing the Power of Sex in EFT
with George Faller, LMFT & Dr. Laurie Watson
Good news: if you’re a couple therapist, you’re also a sex therapist! Therapists have been taught that working with sexuality is a specialty, but it’s not. It can’t be. Why? For most couples, sexual attachment is as essential to their stability as emotional attachment. Unfortunately, most couple therapists get very little training in how to work with sexual attachment.
Over the last three years, George Faller and Laurie Watson been trying to normalize discussions about sex in their work and teaching as LMFTs on their highly ranked podcast, Foreplay, where they use their expertise to help couples resolve sexual difficulties and highlight the importance of therapists talking openly about sex. They believe it’s the therapist’s responsibility to initiate conversations around sexuality, rather than burdening couples with this potentially anxiety-provoking task.
Attachment theory demonstrates that there are three behavioral cycles in a romantic relationship: emotional, sexual, and caretaking. Together, they form the bond between the partners. Sex particularly comprises the excitement and vitality in a romantic relationship. The power of sex in a relationship isn’t simply body parts and physiology; it’s a force of attachment. Therapists need to become versatile in dealing with the cycles simultaneously.